Adichie: “Why should a woman’s success be a threat to a man?” Blog Post by Ruzina Khatun

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“A feminist is a man or a woman who says, “yes there is a problem with gender as it is today and we must fix it. We must do better””.

In 2013, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie made an appearance on Beyoncé’s album with the track ‘Flawless’. The track includes samples from Adichie’s TedxEuston talk, “We should all be feminists”. Adichie and Beyonce (‘Queen Bey’) joined forces to promote feminism to a widespread audience and eliminate gender inequality. So why was Adichie’s speech given global prominence?
This speech discusses the unhealthy stereotypes and expectations that women face in society. Adichie begins with a few personal accounts she has had growing up in Nigeria. She tells the story of her male friend calling her a “feminist” which was directed as an insult. As a feminist, she feels that she needs to explain her relationship with makeup. The word feminist is associated with “heavy baggage” and it means that “you hate men, you hate bras, you hate African culture.” Instead, Adichie wants to be identified as a “happy African feminist who does not hate men and who likes lip gloss and who wears high heels for herself but not for men”.

As a child, her dreams of being class monitor was crushed because she was a girl. All these personal accounts demonstrate her own experience with gender inequality. Adichie then focuses on the pay gap between men and women. For example, in Nigeria, people assume that a woman’s wealth is from a man. In the workplace, a woman’s work effort is just the same as man’s, yet their paycheck disregards this. They learn to not speak up for themselves as they are worried about coming across as too aggressive. These gender expectations are internalised which result in double standards for men and women. While men are praised for being tough and aggressive –women who act in the same way are criticised. Gender bias in a workplace is real and findings show that a woman’s perceived competency drops by 35% when they are judged as being “assertive” (Source: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2015/08/25/gender-bias-is-real-womens-perceived-competency-drops-significantly-when-judged-as-being-forceful/#785c71672d85).

This shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone. Adichie’s speech reinforces Simone de Beauvoir’s critical theory, The Second Sex, which argues that women are oppressed and made to be inferior to men–simply by the fact that they are women. In a world which is male-orientated, how can a woman expect to accomplish the same as a man? Adichie agrees with Beauvoir that, although women and men are different biologically,” socialization exaggerates the differences”. Thus, the origin of gender roles and inequality are products of society and social experiences.

Childhood is very important to socialization. Boys and girls are expected to conform to strict and confining gender roles from a young age. Adichie argues that, “We do a great disservice to boys in how we raise them. We stifle the humanity of boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way… We teach boys to be afraid of fear, of weakness, of vulnerability. We teach them to mask their true selves…” She asserts the idea that, it is not only women who suffer from socially constructed gender inequality, but men also suffer from these disadvantages.

Adichie says, “Culture does not make people. People make culture”. She proves that feminism is not strictly a female experience and culture will not change unless individuals acknowledge this. Adichie’s speech gives meaning to complex ideas of why we should all be feminists.

 

 

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One response to this post.

  1. Posted by Lily Money on December 11, 2017 at 12:50 pm

    Hey, I thought this was a great post. I first leant about this Ted Talk and it was the first time I came across Adichie by listening to flawless. I complete agree with her idea of feminism. Even today, women are still scared to identify as a feminist because they are worried that people might think of them as a ‘man hater’. I was once watching an interview with Beyoncé where she says the word feminist use to frighten her, but then she came across this author and realised feminist applies to all of us because it is equality for both sexes. I like that Adichie address that men suffer as well as women; such as the narrow view of masculinity that society has.

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